Should gay couples be allowed to adopt children-could somebody check it and correct if necessary,please.
Throughout history, the approach towards homosexuality in the society has changed and now the majority of people tend to tolerate gay couples who openly show their sexuality. It is accepted that there is sexual equality and that no one should be discriminated against just because of being a gay. However allowing for adoption by such couples is certainly an issue which may be a matter of considerable controversy. Strong arguments exist in support of both sides of this debate, which implies that it is worth examining both points of view before reaching final conclusion. However most of people, including myself are in opinion that allowing for adoption by gay-couples is too much. Such adoption is not only against nature but it is also harmful for emotional, physical and psychological growth of children.
Firstly, parents have very strong influence on their children’s believes, views, behavior, manners, way of living and finally sexual preferences. It is crucial to show the right model of the family to the children, simple because they imitate their parents’ lives and behave in the same way. One could easily predict what a great impact it may have on kid’s sexuality and sexual preferences if such adoption would be allowed. Some people claim that it is better for children to be adopted by homosexuals than to live in pathological families; however it is not the case. There are so many stable, mature and responsible heterosexual couples who long for children to give them loving home and proper living conditions. If one take into account that 98% of our population is heterosexual there is really no need to allow adoption for gay couples. What’s more such people seem to ignore the results of many experiments which have been carried out recently. They proved that especially gay couples have such a negative impact on children’s emotional state which can seriously damage their self-evaluation and may also be harmful to psychological development of a child.
Secondly, a strong, natural and proper infant-mother bond and relationship may be achieved only in a “normal’ family where there is a father and a mother. A man will never be able to adopt the role of a woman because the father is neither as psychologically nor physically linked to the new-born baby as the mother is. The father views the child in a different light. According to psychiatrists and psychologists having a” healthy’ family model where there is a place for that unique relationship between a child and a natural mother actually has an incredible influence on the growing sense of self-awareness and self esteem of a bairn.It is scientifically proven that most women become particularly attuned to the needs of their babies. In fact, in some situations the mother-child bond is so strong that some women perceive themselves and the infant as a single, inseparable entity. The bonding which occurs between a woman and her baby is indeed very special and cannot be replaced in any way. Being the main and natural care-giver women tend to develop an ability to anticipate what their cub wants or needs. Of course there are some people who claim such a bond may be also present in a gay/lesbian couple. Unfortunately all research and studies which have been carried out recently show the contrary. The proper and the best environment for a youngster is a mother-father family model, where natural mother is close to child and father supports their needs. The father plays also another important role in heterosexual family; he is a model to follow, an example, a real male. This is important especially in case of boys. Experiments indicate that boys who do not have such example became feminine or even homosexuals because they imitated their mothers not fathers. In case of gay couples the process of choosing or developing sexuality by teenagers is disturbed on a such great scale that it may lead to very low self-esteem, problems with seeing and accepting own body and often to deviancy or homosexuality.
A conclusion may be drawn from what have been just written. While most people agree that gay and lesbian couples are tolerated in our culture, some of us cannot accept any further measurements being taken in favor of such couples. One of them is adoption, which should be strictly reserved for heterosexual couples. What’s more steps should be taken not to allow homosexual couples to adopt children or even to have any contact with youngsters.
Firstly, because there is every likelihood such adoption may have great and bad influence on sexuality and sexual behavior of children. As a consequence kids have earnest problems with self esteem and often with self-acceptance, not mentioning peers acceptance.
Secondly, it may also be harmful for psychological and emotional development of a child mainly because there is no strong mother-infant bond and all the patterns of a ‘healthy’ family are upside down.